Unconditional Love: How YOU Can Transform Your Relationships and Feel Better!
What if someone could let you down, and you could simply feel love for them?
What if they didn’t play by your rulebook, but lived according to their own rules… and you could love them anyway?
Is there EVER a time when loving someone doesn’t feel better than being upset with them?
You don’t have to hang out with a person who isn’t meeting your needs, but does it ever actually feel good, or make your day better, to experience a ton of negative emotions toward another human? Do resentment, bitterness, rage, frustration and regret actually feel great?
Wouldn’t love feel better?
“My Heart Seriously EXPLODES When I See That Smile!”
People believe that love happens to us magically. They think we don’t have any control over who we love (or who we don’t love).
“It just happens,” you may tell your friends. “I can never predict when it will happen or who it will happen with… love is mysterious and almost supernatural.”
This is not actually true though.
We can choose who we want to love, because we can choose the thoughts we have about other people.
You may be thinking, “Andrea, that’s crazy! I can’t choose to be interested in that big goofball of a guy/girl that keeps showing up at my desk at lunch! I’m totally not attracted to them!”
The funny thing is that attraction is all based upon our thoughts.
The things you think about this person determine your attraction to them. “What a funny, unattractive goofball,” you say, and BAM - you’ve just thrown them deep into the friend-zone.
Your thought didn’t create any attraction inside your brain or body for this funny, goofy person.
Maybe you have feelings instead for the “bad boy/girl” at the office… the unpredictable person that everyone is talking about. “I never know what they’re going to do,” you think. “And gosh. EVERYONE likes them. My best friend has a crush on them too!” That thought makes the person seem more desirable; less available, less controllable… almost unattainable.
“That person is SO exciting,” you say. “I wonder if they’re single? I wonder if they could ever like me?”